Happy Friday!!!
Well, unless you are in Florida it’s a safe bet to assume you are in some form of tundra type living. As a born and raised New Englander – I may get cranky around this time of year, longing for spring but I don’t ever go in panic mode when it comes to storms. I secretly LOVE a good ole N’or Easter! My poor friends in TX though – yikes, y’all just don’t have the bandwidth. I remember living in NC, when they even mentioned snow the state shut down. Nary a snowplow to be found – they just didn’t exist! I feel your pain Texas – hang in there!
Yesterday I went live in the Thursday Club Insiders Facebook Group – you can grab the replay there or HERE. I went deep into the Trifecta of Health: MIND, BODY & SOUL.
Today, I want to expand a bit. Your health starts with your MIND – 100%. You won’t be healthy until you are happy, and you 100% will never be happy if you allow toxic people into your life.
Yep. I’m going there.
I want you to do an inventory of people in your life today. Get out your journal and write down everyone you’ve purposefully interacted with over the past week – that includes co-workers, customers, family, “friends” and even your Dunkin/Starbucks drive-thru person.
Make 3 columns.
Like, They Annoy the hell out of me and the Hmmmm…I don’t know
The Like column – should include people who:
Lift you up
Support you
Respect you
Encourage you
Make you smile
The annoy the hell out of me column is the opposite of the like column – so no brainer. You got it – these people are Toxic and have no place in your life.
It’s that HMMMM – IDK folks that we need to focus on because they are the ones who tend to linger in your life when they shouldn’t – aka move them to the ANNOY column OR you need to fix something, set boundaries etc.
Disclaimer – NO one and I mean NO ONE is perfect – I’m not looking for that at all and neither should you. What we want to do is identify those sneaky toxic people in your life and do something about them.
How to identify that someone is in the HMMMMM versus LIKE
- They criticize you
- They try to one up you constantly
- They aren’t supportive of your dreams, wants, and desires
- They’ve lied to you
- You complain about them – more often than not
- They just don’t make you happy
Now – my guess is you’ve had to move a few people out of the like and into the HMM..and that’s ok. That doesn’t mean they are dead to you, it simply means you need to address it.
This isn’t easy, but stand up for yourself! Speak up and tell that HMMMM person it’s NOT ok to treat you that way. Some may not even realize they are doing it and the relationship can be fixed…others will not and off to the ANNOY column they go.
Bottom line – ANNOY the hell out of you is TOXIC and they don’t belong in your life.
I’m extreme on this – because it includes family members and longtime “friends” – who really weren’t friends obviously. It also includes the workplace & customers, people I’m connected with on Social Media – if they don’t align with my vision, values and habits – see ya’ later alligator. Life is too damn short to spend it with toxic people who make me feel less than amazing about myself.
Hard rule – if you are toxic you have no place in the Cindy World. I strongly suggest you take my lead on this one – it’s a #GameChanger.
Remember – you can’t be healthy until you are happy. It’s not the other way around.
Cheers and have an AWESOME WEEKEND!
Cindy