[ThursdayClub] Be careful…
Happy Friday!
We are just about halfway through March – I hope you have taken the steps to work on your Resiliency and Confidence. It’s so critically important to master this – not only for success but for ultimate happiness. When you can conquer fears and think bigger than you ever thought, the world around you changes.
This leads me to today’s musings…your words.
What you say matters, and you want to be extremely careful how you use your words as they convey to your thoughts that in turn move to actions. I know I’ve talked about this in the past, but I’m taking a bit of a different spin today and this is about thinking big.
When I was in my late 30’s and early 40’s the proverbial shit hit the fan. I was probably about as low as I could get. With my life in a precarious balance, a credit score in the 300s, a dead car and literally sleeping on an air mattress at my sisters – I was just grateful for a roof over our heads and food in our bellies. I felt like a shitty mom, but at least we had my sister.
With the help of a friend, I got a used car that wasn’t falling apart and I felt like I hit the lottery. Yes, I was grateful – but you know what happened? I kind of stopped dreaming about a nicer car. Next, I got an apartment for us, filled it with about 3K worth of IKEA furniture and I felt like I was a decent mom again – hell an accomplished queen. Again – I was grateful, but I stopped dreaming about the house I really wanted.
You know why? I didn’t think that was ever going to happen. I had been so down, that this used car and an apartment was gold compared to what I just came out of and I felt like this is what I deserved. As good as it was ever going to get.
That’s the key to this all – I felt like I deserved what happened and because of my choices, this was as good as it was going to get. Yes, I made some choices that got me there – aka bad marriage, bad business partners – but I also took the hard steps to get away from both. #WinnerWinnerChickenDinner
Of course, I eventually saw the pattern I was in – hopped off the victim train and got some Cindy balls. The world is my oyster and I can have anything I want, be anything I want and I don’t have to settle. I’m still grateful for the little things and what I have now – but I’m a dreamer and those dreams will come true if I want them to.
So if you are currently driving a car that is ok, living a life that is ok, residing in an apartment that is ok – and you are suppressing your big dreams because you don’t think you deserve them or you don’t feel you’ll ever get there. Stop.
There is a difference between being grateful for what you have and being complacent where you are.
Do the Dreamlining exercise I shared in my Monday email.
Do it and don’t ever stop. When you start achieving those dreams – your confidence will soar through the damn roof. You know what you also just crushed? Being resilient.
Go have an awesome weekend – do the exercise of Dreamlining and follow it up with Fear Setting (Thursday’s email). #GameChanger!
Cheers,
CD